From time to time, some of my friends stop by my Necessary Room. I just love having company over. My good friend, Chris - author of An Inch of Time - is here today to share a very special guest post with us. She was kind enough to share this photo of Buddhist monks creating a mandala - the epitome of patience - to accompany her post. Please join me in welcoming Chris.
Like an alcoholic entering Al-Anon admits they have a problem with alcohol, I also have a problem, but it isn't alcohol. My problem is impatience and I am an impatient person. However, a potentially life-threatening situation recently occurred forcing me to confront and deal with my impatience.
Early last month I was involved in a serious auto accident involving a teen-aged driver. Both of us, for the most part, were able to walk away from the accident without any serious injuries and I hope it continues to stay that way. Two days after the accident my new car, less than a year old, was declared a total loss. While I did not cause nor contribute to the accident, and since negotiations are ongoing between our respective insurance companies, I won't go into the specifics of the accident.
In the early days after the accident there was a flurry of paperwork to complete and phone calls to make and return. It is often said in times of great stress, strengths emerge in people they never knew they had. Unbeknownst to me buried within the tangled mess of this accident, patience emerged.
Patience has some amazing abilities. I've learned to be, and continue to stay calm. I've learned when we are patient, particularly during stressful times when our patience is stretched beyond its limits, sometimes things turn out remarkably well. It's been five weeks since the accident and so far things have gone well, much better than I would've expected. I have a new car and my life is somewhat back to normal although driving is still a little shaky and I've become hyper-vigilant.
Maybe this is mere coincidence but I truly believe buried in many things that happen to us, be it good or bad, there are lessons to be learned. Some heed these lessons, others need a rude awakening so they are forced to learn these lessons. However, there is one other valuable lesson I learned as a result of this accident, forgiveness and compassion towards the other driver.
Life is often not a patient process but I believe, and have since learned, patience has the ability to ease and help us navigate those rough spots more smoothly.